I am a firm believer of a good spanking ending in tears, which is most often not just a result of the spanking itself, but rather a connection between the disciplinarian and the one being spanked. For a spankee to be brought to the point of tears during a spanking, it is often due to a level of trust and comfort that is not usually established right away. Therefore, to take away what is needed from being disciplined as an adult, you often must commit to repeat visits. It is important that you meet someone whom you can trust, who grows to know your hard limits, your body language, your sounds, and all of the other things that can be learned without a single word being spoken.
Many can offer to hit you with an object, as I’m sure through your pursuits you may have experienced. A so called “disciplinarian” will offer to spank you with their belt or paddle, or over the knee, and will not take the time to establish the immensely important level of trust you need to achieve in order to fully submit to their guidance.
This connection is so important if you are wanting to take away from the experience the things you sought to achieve.
Be safe, make sure your spanker understands what your goals are beforehand, and if you truly want to delve into the experience of receiving discipline from a stranger while providing minimal detail of your comfort levels, preferences, etc...... please atleast make sure you set up a simple Safe Word to halt the spanking immediately if your limit has been reached. A truly trustworthy disciplinarian will honor your safe word and stop immediately.
You can also set up a Slow word, for lack of a better term. If you don’t want the spanking to end, but you truly need the disciplinarian to lighten up a bit because it is getting too intense for your comfort level, or you’ve reached your limit on pain and need them to ease back but not stop altogether, that Slow word will come in handy. It means don’t stop the discipline, but ease back on the pain level.
Having a Safe word to halt the spanking immediately, and a Slow word to ease back on the pain level but not stop altogether will help you while easing into the experience of being spanked by a disciplinarian. And as I mentioned before, a true disciplinarian who respects your concerns, your body, and your relationship with them will honor those words immediately without question.
Feel free to reach out for discussion, suggestions, links on where to buy solid implements, find spankers, or anything else at my email punishedhard@aol.com
Remember to be safe.
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